Following on from with our theme of embracing our bodies, we would like to introduce you to Jules Brunner. Jules is the wonderful Kinesiologist that practices out of Food for Life here at 18 Hill Street, Toowoomba. She recently took the EMBRACE documentary to the Gold Coast and knows more than anyone through her work the importance of embracing our bodies. This blog is a personal insight into Jules own journey as well as tools she uses to Embrace her body!
Over to you Jules:
Ok so lets have a look at embracing myself….
Enter Julia to the planet – electric orange hair and a huge head that needed to be vacuum suctioned from my poor mother – not perhaps the easiest start to my own body image movement! From as early as I can remember there was conversation about how I screamed all the time and my bright red, electric orange hair that perhaps even some of those closest thought was ugly!
Enter body image issues…..
I was always a skinny girl – never once in my life was I tormented for ever being fat – there was the freckles issue though – cheers for those genetics Dad! The endless taunts about being the freckled face fart machine or looking weird because my skin was white and dotty, now those things impacted myself worth.
I am very grateful for all the ways my body has physically contributed to my life. Allowing me to be able to experience riding a bike and then motorbike, running and swimming. It also supported me to walk down the aisle, then grow and deliver my children, travel to different countries and hike to special places that will forever be in my heart. To be able to have snorkelled in Bora Bora with the sting rays and reef sharks and trek around Disneyland with my children. My body has allowed me the enjoyment of tasting different foods and meeting different people……thanks body…..you rock!
I have come to realize in my adult life, and most certainly now as part of my work as a kinesiologist, that no matter who we are, or where we’ve come from, we have got some body consciousness about us. If by chance we have excellent body image, it will be our intellect or the way we are too emotional or not successful enough or not wealthy enough that will badger our self-worth and hinder us from truly embracing ourselves on some level.
My journey of self-care has been on and off. I would love to be here telling you all how to do it and how wonderful it is – but I’m not. I am here to say just get back on the horse. I have just this past week encouraged myself to get back on track with my self care and get myself feeling better. So how do I do this?
Firstly, a kinesiology appointment to find out what food and supplements my body is needing to increase my life energy. It was wheat and grains out and magnesium, Vitamin B and Vitamin C in! So, that’s easy – just do that! WRONG!! I forget and get too lazy and all sorts of excuses – this time I’ve got them all in a handy spot and a stock of doses in my hand bag and car for when I’m out and about. I will see how it goes.
Secondly, meditation. Meditation helps me endlessly…..when I take the time to do it! Do I meditate like a Buddhist monk for two hours a day – ummmm NO! Its more like 15 minutes of me squirming while trying to manage my pins and needles in my leg or foot! And then trying to mindfully ignore the wedgie I have ended up with from squirming my bottom around managing the pins and needles. Then I spend some time bringing my wandering mind back like a naughty two year old that has wandered off in the shops! After all that is said and done though……I find peace. A peace that cannot be really be put into words because it is just simply peace. Here there are no judgements or feelings that I could be doing better – just peace and peace alone. Maybe 10 minutes of true meditation is all I manage – but to have that peace in my day is truly one of the best things I can do in my self care. I embrace peace.
Mindful conversation with myself. If you are anything like me, you would rarely say anything to intentionally hurt another person. If your friend tells you they are fat or ugly or hopeless we don’t say “ Yes you most definitely are a hideous individual’ . We correct them and remind them we love them, we ask if we can help them with anything, we tell them we feel grateful to have them in our lives. So please tell me why it is we feel it’s totally acceptable to shame and hate on ourselves in our mirror every day?? I have consciously made the effort to stop and smile at myself every day in the mirror. Just simply smile and give myself some approval. It’s not easy some days. I tried praising myself and my body and it just didn’t feel authentic to me. But what I have done is stop the quick glance and the insult of my body – nice freckles on your big thick thighs, nice c- section scar and stretchmark hips, oh gee that cellulite is looking great today – NO MORE!! Just a smile and an acceptance glance to say “You are enough”. I’m not talking myself up or down – just a place of acceptance to remind myself that I am enough. The same thing I would like all that cross my path to feel. Practise what I preach.
The final part of my embracing myself is that I surround myself with folks that mirror the life path I want for myself. The people that remind me to stay on task. The people who give me an emotional uppercut when I need one and also hold me close when I feel like all is lost. These people are my human conscience. An extension of my true self. They know me and recognize themselves in me too. I am so VERY VERY grateful to be able to say I have these people in my workplace, my personal life and in my home and extended family. I can say at this point too that it wasn’t always this way and perhaps this adjustment of myself and those around me has been the hardest, yet the most powerful change to make. We all need an authentic, loving team on our side to help us nourish and guide ourselves towards our best selves.
So – what is my ultimate advice in guiding you to embrace yourselves….
Just try – get back on the horse – be consistently steering yourself back on track. My goal is to stay on track longer each time. The biggest part for me was finding my authentic self and shifting the old sabotages and habits that no longer served me. This revealed a beautiful truth to me – that I was enough all along. All I have to ever do now is just steer the ship back on course as consistently as I can.
Get in Touch - You can follow Jules through her business page on Facebook: Jewels of Wellbeing Kinesiology or contact her on firstname.lastname@example.org